It’s possible that we may need to examine what our version of love looks like. Love is not making people perform a checklist of “Christian” behaviors. It requires that we first receive grace on an ongoing basis ourselves for all the junk in our lives. Out of that grace we’ve received we can share God’s love and mercy with others in a non-judgmental way, recognizing that we are called to humbly serve others.

There’s a great line in the song Stairway to Heaven – “There’s a sign on the wall but she wants to be sure, ’cause you know sometimes words have two meanings.” For far too long gays and lesbians have heard the church talk about love, but they understandably hesitate because indeed our words sometimes have two meanings.

Andrew Marin said it well, “Love is a walk, a hug, a dinner, an ear, a fun trip – all free of the condemning and ostracizing that the LGBT person “knows” is coming from Christians. This type of love says that no matter who you are, no matter what you do or no matter what you say, I have your back, and I refuse to give up – whether or not there’s “change” – because my Father will never give up on me.”