If I memorize all scripture concerning homosexuality but don’t love gay people
I become another obnoxious, judging, stereotype,
If I develop carefully worded policies and adhere to every law concerning discrimination,
If I never tell another gay joke, support AIDS research, and read all the right books on the subject,
If I make winning gays for Christ a personal project but don’t actually love individuals no matter where they are with this issue right now, I am nothing.
If I sacrifice any semblance of a life to work tirelessly to protect the sanctity of marriage, encourage holiness, and promote celibacy among gay Christians, but don’t love them, I gain nothing and neither do they.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, critical, proud, or rude. Love does not demand its own way but adapts to the needs and nuances of each situation.
Love is not irritable and keeps no record of being wronged, even when the church calls it compromising and gay organizations call it hateful.
Love does not rejoice in injustice or vengeance, but rejoices when the truth wins out, even when GLAAD turns out to be right. Love never gives up on friends. Love never loses faith in the Holy Spirit’s power to influence.
Love is always hopeful that something will ignite each gay friend’s desire to embrace God and to surrender completely to Him. Love keeps offering new information and experiences to help each friend discover God’s love and grace, even when that friend resists, disagrees, or acts out.
Homosexuality and heterosexuality will become obsolete in eternity, but love will last forever. Now our understanding is partial and incomplete, but then we will understand with perfect clarity.
Now we have a partial understanding of and imperfect responses to homosexuality, then we will see the whole story and how all our struggles fit into the plot and character development. When we perceive our gay friends the way that God perceives them, grace and trust and peace can guide our responses to their unique situations.
Our gay friends will remember our love, our encouragement, and our friendship more than our theological accuracy, our programs, or our outreach efforts towards them. Love has greater eternal consequence and impact on them in this life than anything else.
These three things will last forever – faith, hope, and love, but the greatest of these is love.